Monday, 26 March 2012

  • Getting the hell out of Sydney and travelling overseas - at last!

    In a few days I will board a Singapore Airlines A380 aircraft in economy class.

    Image by Rolf Wallner.

    The plane will take-off from Sydney in the afternoon and will arrive in Singapore eight and a half hours later in the evening (SGT).

    I'll have about four hours to chill in Singapore's Changi airport before the plane takes-off again, bound for Beijing, China.

    Six and a half hours later, I will arrive in Beijing. It will be Springtime (instead of Autumn) and temperatures should be between one and eleven degrees Celsius (or between thirty-four and fifty-two degrees Fahrenheit).

    For the next month, I will explore a few cities on the Chinese mainland, as well as Hong Kong and then Macau. All this will be done using land transportation (buses and trains).

    Finally, I get to experience Beijing, Xi'an, Shanghai, Xitang, Guilin, Hong Kong (for the second time) and Macau. Instead of getting impressions from the internet and from what other people say, I will experience these cities first-hand.

    My current impressions of each city:

    Beijing - huge spaces and huge buildings and monuments, grand imperial architecture, dusty, dirty, lots of homeless and poor people, heavily polluted so that I can't see buildings 200 metres away, Chinese ethnic diversity (Han-Chinese from different areas and minority groups like Hui, Manchurian, Mongolian, Korean etc.), rudeness and public pushing-in and shoving.

    Xi'an - same as Beijing, but with more Central Asian (Islamic) influence in architecture, restaurants and people.

    Shanghai - same as Beijing, but with heavy Western influence in architecture, shops, restaurants, bars and people.

    Xitang - pretty white and grey houses that sit on the river bed, with stone bridges crisscrossing the small towns, giving a feeling of being in a Chinese movie.

    Guilin - beautiful karst mountains rising out of the Yangzi river, blue skies and green agricultural fields.

    Hong Kong - strong pollution smell from vehicles (should now be a pleasant smell after trekking through China's construction frenzy), incredibly tall and thin buildings with bamboo scaffolding, incredibly clean (after comparing with China), great food, great shops, completely modern cityscape, orderly pedestrians and vehicles that obey laws similar to what I'm used to in Australia, dripping air-conditioners, business people and people from all over the world (cosmopolitan atmosphere).

    Macau - glittering casinos littering the cityscape, many beggars, many ugly and gigantic buildings built quickly as grand gestures, nice Portuguese-influenced area built to impress (completely different to what most of the area looks like). Quite orderly, like Hong Kong.

    These are just my impression based on what I've read and what I've heard from people that have been. I won't know how close or how far off the mark I'll be until I experience it myself.

    I have been thinking about this trip to China, Hong Kong and Macau for a long time. I would by lying if I said I didn't put in a lot of hopes for this trip - I expect a lot out of it (culture shock will be great - anything that jolts me out of my comfort zone and makes me see things in a new light).

    I'm not sure when I will (or even can) blog again, but this should explain my temporary absence that would start in a few days time.

    再见, Xangans

Saturday, 24 March 2012

  • Marcus and his thoughtful advice to me

    You have to make time for things you want in life - this is what Marcus told me the other day over the phone. A routine is important and even a half hour each day spent doing something you’ve always wanted is enough.

    I was down about myself and the state of my life and decided to venture to the supermarket to get away from the gloom of the house. I was punching in my pin at the ATM when my mobile chimed - it was Marcus, what a lovely surprise. Even though we’ve made clear that we are just friends, I couldn't help myself and I was transported immediately to a happy state. I didn’t realise how my whole face lit up until a passing security guard flashed a huge smile at me, apparently mirroring mine. As my conversation with Marcus flowed, I found myself wandering the space of the shopping plaza, apparently with my own two feet.

Monday, 19 March 2012

  • Reliving university failures

    I was rummaging through a bag tucked in my mum's closet, looking for my passport, when I saw a slender box that contained my Bachelor of Business plaque. I picked up the dusty white box, opened it, and time stood still for that moment as I mentally went back to my university years. I then caught sight of something that was so shameful to me: my university transcript.

    The university transcript was kept in an old A4 envelope inside the box. I opened the envelope and pulled it out, still freshly inked - rarely seen, let alone touched, since its birth from a printer located in some warehouse. I looked over my marks and saw the shameful three Absent Fails for my very first semester and then the two additional Fails further on in my university life. I winced like I normally would when I thought about my marks. Then I caught sight of my other marks: one High Distinction, three Distinctions and five Credits, and, for that moment, I considered these better marks. My perception changed, from outright university failure to pockets of university success.

    It was absolutely forbidden for me for all these years to think of my university marks, and how nice it was to have come to this point where I forgave myself for those failures. I mentally patted myself on the back.

    I now have the plaque next to my computer, with its sparkling clear plastic frame and gold plaque, my name etched in black ink along with my degree title. I did try very hard, at times, during my university years, and I did eventually receive my degree - blood (from arguments with John), sweat (from all the rushing to finish work and to get to class) and tears (from persevering after failure). I didn't just fail, I did good, too.

Thursday, 15 March 2012

  • The Versatile Blogger Award

    I really get a kick out of being tagged, so thank you very much, Chris, for considering me. shy I've always found Chris's entries to have the quality of a glossy magazine - beautiful pictures of food and its preparation, succinct descriptions of Thailand and its development, and lovely entries about his extended family.

    This blog entry is huge! The Verbose Blogger is more apt, for me. Here are seven things you don't know about me, followed by whom I'd like to give The Versatile Blogger Award to:

    1. I dislike people who eat on trains. It is unsavoury to be smelling food mixed in with the body odour of a million people. It is also unhygienic - all those germs coming together in a poorly ventilated carriage, diving into their foods as they put it in their mouths. It's not the end of the world, but it's a pet peeve.

    2. There was a time when I thought... um... masturbation (shh...) was bad. I held out for three months straight and I had very vivid dreams during this time.

    3. This is bizarre, but my first exposure to pornography was when I was between four and seven years old. I had no idea what I was doing at the time, but my brother and one of our neighbour's kid (we were all under ten years old) came up to me and asked me to follow them, and so I did. I was then shown into the kid's parents' bedroom, where my brother and the kid suddenly shut the door and locked it. I heard them snicker behind the door. I was by myself and there was a pornography tape (of heterosexual sex) being played. I sat on the bed and gazed. Of course, I didn't have any reaction to the tape, I just knew it was something rude and I had no interest in it. After sitting on the bed for a bit, someone opened the door and I was free to go out. I remember feeling relief.

    4. When I was ten, I wanted to teach my younger sister about the dangers of fire. It went terribly wrong. We were in our living room, and I told my sister that she shouldn't play with fire and I wanted to show her why. I poured water on the tiles, as protection, and placed a single lit tea light candle on the centre. We both stood there and looked at the candle. I then grabbed a bottle of methylated spirits and poured it onto the candle. What happened next was that upon contact between the methylated spirits and the candle, a flame shot up to the bottle in my hand. In my shock, I dropped the bottle and it smashed into pieces on the tiles and the flame immediately flared into a huge bonfire-like flame in our living room.

    Me and my sister froze. We were dumbstruck. We then started to panic, jumping up and down on the spot (not very useful). What could be done? The flame was really big and dangerous and it was just me and my sister. We ran into our backyard and then straight into the garage (I did not feel my legs, at all, while I ran), where my parents were sewing clothes, and shouted "Fire! Fire! Quick! There's a big fire in the living room! Quick! Come! Quick!"

    My parents ran into the living room and they paused for a millisecond, possibly thinking how it was even possible that this was happening. Then with my dad's quick thinking, he dashed to his and mum's bedroom and got out their heavy blanket. In their rush and shock, I saw my mum slip on the wet tiles and land on her backside - I immediately felt ashamed. Holding the blanket in their hands, my parents placed the blanket on top of the flame and the flame was actually put out.

    Now, you would think I'd be caned to high heaven for this act, but I wasn't. I don't remember what happened afterwards. I just know that I felt guilty and kept thinking about my mum falling in her rush and shock of the situation. I also felt guilty that my parents continued to use their crispy burnt blanket for many years afterwards. Both me and my sister certainly learnt our lesson about the dangers of fire.

    5. As a child, my parents used the bamboo part of a feather duster to cane me whenever I did something bad. After a week of many canings, I came up with a plan to end the pain. It wasn't long before my mum brought out the feather duster again and told me I was being naughty. My mum looked at me and, just as I was about to receive the cane, I laughed. To my surprise, my mum started to laugh, too.

    As she caned me, she asked me why I continued to laugh - I couldn't remember what I said. It was a strange outcome for my plan: we were both laughing and my mum still caned me some more. It was then, however, that I realised it wasn't because she hated me (her laughing at me laughing showed me that). I'm not sure if this was the trigger for it, but my parents didn't cane us much afterwards, and it was not long before it was completely forgotten about, altogether.

    6. I have regrets. I regret feeling torn about (and then deciding against) taking two weeks off my accounting role to attend my grandmother's funeral - she had an unfortunate and sudden death (my mum had to fly to China, alone - I booked her tickets and made sure she got there quickly, though).

    7. I decided to change high schools and repeat Grade 11, even when I didn't have to. I decided to repeat because I felt I needed a clean slate in order to get the maximum marks for university entry. This was obviously foolish. This mindset of having a 'clean slate' has repeated itself many times in my life. But, you know what? This big mistake did not ruin my life. I've had plenty of opportunities afterwards where I could make things good again.

    And, now, I would like to give the Versatile Blogger Award to:

    • aPieceOfTheSky - Upon reading my first entry of yours, Home., I immediately felt like we had a similar upbringing. I want to find out if that's true, and I would like to find out more about you.
    • beowulf222 - For being the only blogger I know that's in Singapore - the land of bloggers! Hah. I've also really enjoyed your recent entries, Office Blues and Intruder Alert, and I want you to write more and show more of yourself.

    Thank you for reading

Thursday, 08 March 2012

  • The reason why I had to study hard

    A long time ago, about two-thirds of a lifetime ago, I was nine and on my backyard steps pretending a Sony Walkman cassette player was a posh car that I owned. Some other device, an electronic Chinese-English dictionary belonging to my mother, was another posh car (not as posh as mine, though) being driven by someone else. I'd dream of myself driving and parking smartly and efficiently. I'd imagine myself indicating, turning and driving safely, but impressively.

    I remember sunny days and slightly unkempt grass in my backyard. There was always my dad's vegetable patch at the back of our house. My parents were always and forever toiling away at the sewing machines - my parents' only resource for making money to keep a family of five afloat since their arrival in Australia as a married couple in their late 20s. My parents only stopped to cook, eat, go to the bathroom and sleep - oh, they also stopped to feed the many pets that we, the children, apparently loved.

    I remember swinging on a metallic rectangular prism frame (it might of once held a flat wooden block on top to make an ugly table) that was left on the grass of our backyard. I did flips on one side of the prism. I also stood on the bottom frame and raised my arms towards the sky and pretended I was an Olympic gymnast. I was also a gymnast that excelled at hopping on each step of our orange-coloured tiled backyard steps that led up to the back door. I would always turn towards an adoring crowd after each routine.

    My dad would make fortnightly, sometimes weekly, trips to the city in our van, which was crammed full of hanging garments that both he and my mum had toiled over for endless nights. There was never any time to waste: the van's engine was usually left running as my parents fussed over the final details of each garment - steam cleaning each garment on the spot, cutting off loose strands of string, and making sure each crevice of the garment looked near identical to the instructions. My parents would quickly, but carefully, hang them all (sometimes they made several trips) inside the van (onto metal rungs my dad had installed) and then my dad shut the van door and he would smoke a cigarette before he left for the city. I would hear all these sounds and would wait til the commotion and fussing was over before I asked my parents if I could join in on my dad's trip. I'd get excited because it would mean I could hop into the van along with dad and I would be treated to the sights and delights of the world outside.

    I remember watching familiar houses (from previous trips) go by and I'd imagine that one day our family would own such a respectable house. I'd always get happy when we would approach McDonald's on our drives. I loved Happy Meals. I didn't realise until now how selfish it was of me, but my dad would always turn into McDonald's and order me a Happy Meal on our way to the city, even if he was in a rush. I'd devour my meal whilst my dad sped and darted through traffic like a madman.

    Once at the garment shop, my dad would bring out a few metal poles from the van and he would quickly assemble a stand for a sample of the garments to be hung and be inspected. One time, before my dad had left for the city, I overheard my parents talking about which garments were best, and they'd mark them so that they'd be ready to go on the stand. The boss of the store would inspect the garments on the stand, literally walking up and down the length of the hanging garments. The boss would check for details, minor imperfections and sometimes they'd say it was good enough (to the delight and relief of my parents - dad would tell mum the news over the phone) and sometimes they'd say it wasn't up to standard. My dad would always happily say 'okay' in these bad situations, and he'd drive home with the full load of clothes so that he and mum could redo them.

    It was often repetitive, tiresome and labour-intensive work - actually, there was never a time that it wasn't. Often, my parents worked from before daylight in the early morning until late at night, without stopping. Sometimes they'd ask us kids to help, but our excuse of having homework always worked with my parents. Our parents would not even dream of letting anything affect our studies.

    From my early childhood years until my early twenties, it was always a normal sight to see my mum and dad toiling away at the sewing machines - toiling away for the family, toiling away for us kids. All my parents had really asked of us was that we study hard, so that we didn't have to toil.